Is Falling in Love Fooling Your Parents?

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My friend had asked me this question. This dilemma is typical of Indian boys and girls who respect conservative sentiment and find it hard to bridge tradition and modernity. Perhaps, the love quotient in his life had grown potent!

I wrote:

If you are able to justify both your ‘loves’ then you are not fooling either of them. Just as loving your mother is not fooling your father, similar is the case with loving a girl. 'Love rebounds as love. Love is the most natural reaction to love.' One love is not antagonistic to the other. Love perpetuates love.

We do not know how to receive this gift. Anything that touches us takes a tinge of our imperfection and the greatest imperfection is that we are split. There are various personalities with different ideologies existing simultaneously within. Each is potent at some level or other. At the intellectual level we are a kind who is quite inconsistent with the one at the mental level. The mental person is different from the physically instinctive. The intellectual man in us is an idealist, the mental wishful, and the physical, impulsive. A perceiver, a feeler and a thinker share our quarters. When these three entities are at an agreement we do justice to things. And, if there is a discord even at one level, we fool ourselves first and anybody else next.

There is a certain aspect of us, which only the various shades of love can unfold. A girl in a boy's life or a boy in a girl's life is the first instance when the unfolding happens. Receiving love was more vital before. It is their first lesson in acceptance. This capacity to give is very comforting and self-assuring. "To be loved is the greatest consolation and to love is a blessing".

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