Areas I Need to Improve
I am told hard work pays. You may wonder - haven't I verified this overfamiliar statement in my quarter lifespan? Hard work is when you put untiring efforts towards a result that would accrue in some distant future. I am a stranger to such effort. My efforts have always been of the nature of hardships as they were contemplated after I had stepped into hot waters and the time to act was running out. I was always managing more than two things.
The other front is socialising, one that I find too demanding. The warmth I naturally possess doesn't raise questions about my social instincts, atleast, others can't see through it. But, the aversion still exists. "I love humanity - it's people I can't stand." This is due to the inanity I meet in people. But, for the sake of worldly benefits one derives out of social networking, I need to put up with this social practice.
The initial interest I evince in a female is also hormonally dictated. I am hard pressed to appease this mortal hunger. I try my best to catch their eyes but I am taken as a good friend instead of a sweetie. I have tried all combinations of attitudes but nothing seems to work. Humour makes me a joker, intellectuality makes me boring, philosophising makes me unintelligible. A combination of grave appearance with a touch of benevolence and frugal of speech is the last calling card. Hope it works.
To men, I should learn to say 'No'. I have always given in to the silliest requests people brought before me. A little selfishness preserves self-worth. Tomorrow, when you fail, because you were a conformist, nobody takes the blame except you. If man is a social animal, society is morally responsible for all his blunders.
I need to understand seriousness, the essential ingredient of professionalism. Towards things that interest me I adopt a playful attitude, and those that don't interest me are more trouble than they were worth. I do not know how I escaped this scourge of seriousness when everyone around, sometime or other, maintains it in his facial contortions. Attentiveness is a better substitute to it, I thought. But, people seem to believe that attentiveness devoid of grim sternness doesn't bring out one's best. It makes you seem desultory. Seriously speaking, I need to be serious.
I have moved from being overconfident in my early years to being highly diffident in the present. I call it a correction, people call it a fall. I trust only God, and nobody else including myself. The grosser the ignorance, the greater the conviction. I believe that one cannot command all the perspectives of a given situation and pass a sound verdict. Only 'stupids are cocksure, the intelligent are full of doubt'. But, life is a gamble. You got to trust your gut.
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The other front is socialising, one that I find too demanding. The warmth I naturally possess doesn't raise questions about my social instincts, atleast, others can't see through it. But, the aversion still exists. "I love humanity - it's people I can't stand." This is due to the inanity I meet in people. But, for the sake of worldly benefits one derives out of social networking, I need to put up with this social practice.
The initial interest I evince in a female is also hormonally dictated. I am hard pressed to appease this mortal hunger. I try my best to catch their eyes but I am taken as a good friend instead of a sweetie. I have tried all combinations of attitudes but nothing seems to work. Humour makes me a joker, intellectuality makes me boring, philosophising makes me unintelligible. A combination of grave appearance with a touch of benevolence and frugal of speech is the last calling card. Hope it works.
To men, I should learn to say 'No'. I have always given in to the silliest requests people brought before me. A little selfishness preserves self-worth. Tomorrow, when you fail, because you were a conformist, nobody takes the blame except you. If man is a social animal, society is morally responsible for all his blunders.
I need to understand seriousness, the essential ingredient of professionalism. Towards things that interest me I adopt a playful attitude, and those that don't interest me are more trouble than they were worth. I do not know how I escaped this scourge of seriousness when everyone around, sometime or other, maintains it in his facial contortions. Attentiveness is a better substitute to it, I thought. But, people seem to believe that attentiveness devoid of grim sternness doesn't bring out one's best. It makes you seem desultory. Seriously speaking, I need to be serious.
I have moved from being overconfident in my early years to being highly diffident in the present. I call it a correction, people call it a fall. I trust only God, and nobody else including myself. The grosser the ignorance, the greater the conviction. I believe that one cannot command all the perspectives of a given situation and pass a sound verdict. Only 'stupids are cocksure, the intelligent are full of doubt'. But, life is a gamble. You got to trust your gut.
(476 words)
Comments
When it comes to approaching any person regardless of the sex, you first need to understand the person & you need to decide if you are the kind of person who would be associated with him/her. Later you need to understand the qualities which match amongst you. & of course there are fewer adjustments that you will always need to make in your life. Being a friend of someone is sometimes far more bonding that being a sweetie.
I believe seriousness has nothing to do with professionalism, it is your attitude & your focus which matters the most. People love cheerful personalities at the work place. It is now your responsibility to decide the level of your involvement in being cheerful.
In my opinion when your try to be someone you are not then your acceptability is endangered. The end result is ignorance by your own near & dear ones. Being one's self will always help you bring out your own good qualities within you & will help you gain respect in others eyes. This is one quote I liked & would recommend you follow it - "I am what I am".